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I Don’t Fit In Jun 29

Well, that’s how I feel anyway.

For the second time this summer, my daughter and I attended a pool party at one of her classmates house’s. For the millionth time in my life, I felt apart from the group and unable to find an appropriate place to input my thoughts into the conversation. That’s not to say I didn’t say anything, but I have a much easier time communicating one-on-one than in a group, and it’s kinda hard to do that when we’re all running around making sure the kids are safe.

It was also obvious today that while, physically, my daughter is the female version of my husband, she really does have my lack of social skills. She’s content to play by herself and let others do the same and just does not understand why the other kids cannot leave her and her favorite toy of the moment in peace. She, like me, enjoys being out with a group, but seems unable to really BELONG.

I have no idea how to help either of us, and it makes me sad.

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2 Responses
  1. LeeAnn says:

    Awwww. What a sad post. 🙁 I’m so sorry you feel that way. I actually wrote a post similar to this a while ago, but it was more that I didn’t fit in with certain physical aspects of the group. Either way, though, not fitting in is never fun.

    Does your daughter go to any kind of preschool or mom’s day out programs? It might be good to put her in some more social situations if she doesn’t seem to want to interact with other kids much. Maybe she just doesn’t know how. Although there have been several parties that we have gone to and Rylie is fine and content to just do her own thing too. When there is just one other kid, or a very small group, she plays very well with the other kids. But if we are at a large party, she usually does keep to herself. I think she gets overwhelmed, which may be what happens to your daughter too.

    • Erin says:

      She does attend preschool 2 days per week, and her teachers are very impressed with the social skills of the entire class. While helpful to parents, the 1 year MMO class is an awkward stage for the kids in terms of separation anxiety and interacting with others, but they did very well. I think it might have to do with being overwhelmed, because we can go to someone’s house with a couple kids and things go well, but our last pool party with 6 kids and parents seemed to be a bit much for her. I know the larger the group I’m involved in, the more I stick to myself too.

      I have faith that we’ll both grow socially as we get older, but it does make today’s situations hard.